One of the most powerful weapons in the enemy’s arsenal is the spirit of offense. You’re at church, work or simply hanging out with your friends and someone makes a comment. The enemy rushes in and whispers in your ear, they are belittling you or they are stomping on your rights. Then that old familiar pride rises up on the inside and we are offended. We take the ball and run with it, and Satan doesn’t need to do anything else but sit back and watch the show.
This is such an easy trap to fall into and the effects can be devastating. The spirit of offense has destroyed families, friendships, businesses, ministries and the list goes on and on. Why are we so easily offended? I believe it stems from judging others motives. Somebody says something and we immediately decide it’s all about us. We see through our own filter, which let’s face it; most of the time is a little skewed.
We have many examples in the Bible of how the spirit of offense ruined lives. Satan was offended at God, because he wanted to receive His praise. Cain became offended by Abel, because his sacrifice was pleasing to God.
Proverbs 17:9 says “Whoever would foster love covers over an offense, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.”
Offense is inevitable. We are all broken human beings; we have different priorities and different perspectives. The key is how we deal with offense. First, I think we need to step back and give ourselves some time before we react. Second, we need to pray and ask the Holy Spirit if this is something that needs to be confronted. Third, if God is telling us to confront this situation we need to ask him for the grace to speak our truth in love. Whenever possible we should keep it between that person and ourselves. It easily gets out of hand when we decide to talk about our offense with anyone who will listen.
Matthew 5:23-24 says “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.
God makes it very clear here that offense is dangerous and must be dealt with promptly for ourselves and for others.
What offense are you holding onto today? Who have you offended that you need to make amends to?