Real love is messy and risky. It means you might not get a return on your investment. When we reach out to broken people it usually means we will get our hearts broken sometimes. We will not be able to save everyone from themselves, but we must not allow our hearts to harden to them. We must learn the balance between setting healthy boundaries and just seeking to keep ourselves safe.
Jesus came down to this earth to love on us. It was risky; He knew we all had the freedom to reject Him and His love, but that didn’t stop Him. He willingly laid down His life to save us all and knew that many would reject His valuable gift, but He kept His determination to see it through to the end at tremendous personal pain and torture. He chose to give us this gift no matter the cost.
That is what we need to keep in our mind when we say we want to share Christ’s Love with others. There will be those times that we give a gift of great price and it is rejected or even squandered, but we must remind ourselves that showing love is not about us. Really showing love is giving others the freedom to reject our gift or squander it and choose to love them anyway. We can give a homeless person some money and find out that they have spent it on booze, but we need to be careful not to judge every homeless person based on that one person’s choice.
I’m not saying that we shouldn’t exercise some discernment when we seek to help others, but to truly make a difference we need to take a risk once in a while. We must know that the people whom we reach out to might not treat our gift the way we think they should, but we shouldn’t let that stop us from giving it. We have to continue to be willing to look like a fool once in a while if that’s what it takes to keep our hearts tender to the broken people of the world. I Corinthians 13:4-7 4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
This doesn’t mean that we have to allow people who don’t respect our boundaries walk all over us; it just means going out on a limb and being willing to give for the sake of giving. Matthew 22:36-40 “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?” 37 And He said to him, “ ‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ 38 This is the great and foremost commandment. 39 The second is like it, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ 40 On these two commandments depend the whole Law and the Prophets.”I challenge you to try it. Today, take the risk of giving a gift to someone without an expectation that they will acknowledge you for it or even treat it the way you think they should.
My husband gave me love like this for a while. He remained stable and loving despite my rage and anger for a long time. He truly loved me when I did nothing to deserve it and didn’t know how to return it. This was one of the biggest blessings in my life.
Who can you love on today? Who has loved on you and changed your life?